A good mixed tape

Monday, August 5, 2013

Let me start by saying that I learned a lot about myself today and a whole lot about other people. 

I had to delete a post that a wrote a few days ago where I was far too quick to judge and very inconsiderate of other people's feelings. 

It's not at all my style to write "about" people, and I definitely wasn't trying to hurt anyone, but that's what happened. It's a long story. One that I'm too emotionally exhausted to go into tonight. 

But I'll say this. The post in question was about our evening at a rehearsal dinner a few nights ago. This morning it had around 350 reads, and by the time I deleted it, it had over 3,000. And nearly every comment posted was in dire opposition to what I had to say. Let's just say that I don't have any more followers at the end of the day, and I doubt most of them will ever come back. 

I stopped reading the comments at one point because I know who I am and what I said. And I should not have written some of the words that I did. I have reached out to the parties involved and feel better about our communication. 

I was definitely quick to judge. Too quick.

I don't know why I was so emotional that night or why I felt so compelled to write about it.
Today it all makes more sense. There were some very nasty things written about me, but I'm okay with that. People are entitled to their opinion, and some of it was right. I was being judgmental. No way around it. 

But today I've had the blessing of talking via Facebook to one of the girls whom I wrote about. I have been humbled by her honesty and sincerity and the words she has shared with me. And for that, I am very grateful. 

I'll probably be able to process all this better tomorrow, so I think I'm calling it a night.

Life is definitely a mixed tape, but it's not a bad one, it's a good one. More on that soon...... 


  1. Maybe the Facebook conversation was the point to the whole thing... Just a thought.
    Anybody that follows you on a regular basis knows that you wouldn't intentionally hurt somebody else. Kudos to you for clearing the air and moving on.

  2. I went back and read it. It's the one that I missed. I thought it was going to be something juicy and found it to be transparent. I believe that God placed you at that table to be thankful for where He has placed you. God has shown me that having a different perspective sometimes can bring what's really important back into focus. I know you don't know me, but don't get discouraged you are an encouragement to me and to many others. I am married to my best friend I am a Mom of 5, one in Heaven. I sell Scentsy and Homeschool. It's nice to hear what God is doing in others lives and to know we are not alone.

  3. Oh sweet friend,
    Its all about perspective. Everyone looks at things differently and feels differently. Some people view it as an observation, others may say its judgmental.
    To me its like do you see the glass half full or half empty?
    I know your heart and you are the sweetest, most giving, kind person I know. Don't beat yourself up. I think God was just reminding u what you have and where he has placed you and where u are supposed to be.
    Love you friend! See you tomorrow! I think you need a hug! :)

  4. It's wonderful to read your sincere apologies and that you've welcomed a learning experience.

    Kudos to you.

  5. Allison, I don't feel the need to be anonymous because it takes guts to stand up and say how your feeling, and when you think no one is listening... That's when they do. Life is frustrating and confusing at times. Some people never really get what the Big picture is..and some have wisdom beyond they're years and I believe that's you. So many people admire you and look to you for your young wise words.. But when it all boils down to it... Were all human, there's not one person better than another. All people sin daily without even recognizing they are sinning. The sad thing is some never get that.. The cool thing is We all fall short of the glory of God and are are equal. Life is a big lesson of learning new things. When people attack is usually when your so close to God that the ole Devil doesn't like that... So he has to make some waves. I know all too well about being judged its not fun being on that end of the stick. However I remember how Jesus disciples had to suffer in the name of god and what I have been through wasn't near as rough as their sufferings. and I try to remember that two wrongs don't make a right.. Lesson learned ... Now hug your self because your a child of God and you wouldn't be where you are... Or who you are without all of the mistakes it took you to get here .... hugs


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